The Inner Game of Approach Anxiety

What if your Approach Anxiety was clown? Dressed in a ridiculous outfit?

And he’s carrying around a bag of pretzels that he keeps pushing up his nose…

And every time he tries to talk you out of approaching, he rips a wicked fart…

What do you think of your enemy now?

Not so scary, huh?

In fact, he’s downright laughable.

Here’s the most important step you can take to get past your approach anxiety on Adultfrienedfinder:

STOP ARGUING *FOR* YOUR LIMITATIONS

Let me give you another metaphor to work with here…

When I was first starting to learn guitar, I had all kinds of reasons why I thought I’d suck at the guitar.

– My fingers were thin…

– My hands were weak…

– I was confused by all the frets and strings and combinations…

– I couldn’t possibly play as good as those guys I heard on the radio…

As I started to learn and apply myself, I found that playing guitar was actually pretty easy. All my perceived limitations were all wrong.

– My thin fingers served me because I could play complicated scales and chords easier than if my fingers were “normal” sized…

– My hands got stronger in just 2 weeks of playing…

– I spent study hall in school just re-writing the scales on the fretboard so that I would memorize them faster…

And so on.

What I see is that guys will argue for – and give all their power over to the belief that is holding them back – their own fear of

approaching…

Arguing for your limitations sounds like this:

– “But… I think that women are scared of men… they don’t want us to approach them…”

– “But … what about the women that just want us to approach to get compliments?”

– “But … I think that women are just being polite when guys approach…”

– “But what about…?”

– “But… But… But…”

The list goes on and on.

If you want to, you can keep giving your anxiety more and more power by finding reasons to believe in it even more… KEEP coming up with those “Buts.”

Or you can accept that arguing for your enemy is what’s really holding you back and just agree to not fuel it with any more of your fear.

Can you imagine how that would change your perception of the fear?

I’ve got more great stuff coming up also around how to use thrusting vibrators but also including how to really turn your anxiety into a clown that will not only be a fun partner, but he’ll even MOTIVATE you to approach…

Just so you can watch him cry…

Go check out the latest videos and the new audio on the blog HERE!

Remember, every girlfriend you’ve had – or will have – started with an approach.